Andrea Dahms, a 43-year-old virtual mom from Southern California, recently won the hearts—and minds—of millions of Instagram users with her emotional mini-speech. The video, which was shared on November 10, has already racked up more than 9 million views. This newfound popularity has inspired a rich discussion of what the Christmas spirit really is.
In her video, Dahms interviews her daughter, Brinley, about whether she recalls what Christmas presents she got last year. The impetus for the question comes from Dahms’ inspiration once she saw another parent ask a similar question on the web. “I just thought it was telling that she didn’t hesitate to recall the memory versus the presents,” Dahms remarked, highlighting the importance of experiences over material gifts.
Brinley’s response was straightforward: “I don’t remember.” This honest answer prompted Dahms and her family to radically rethink how they’d approach the coming holiday season. They’re all thinking about skipping the gifts and looking for ways to spend time together making memorable experiences.
Dahms noted, “I think we might change it up this year.” She opened up about her family’s decision to focus on experiences rather than things. Or perhaps they would enjoy a getaway to share even more extraordinary experiences with each other.
The video struck a chord with scores of parents, inspiring Dahms to consider the power of her message. “Why not share this with other parents? That maybe they can rethink how they approach giving to their children,” she said. She believes that the emphasis should be placed on presence rather than presents: “My message is just that it’s sometimes not worth agonizing over the shopping and the spending when all kids really, maybe truly want is your presence.”
She offers new inspiration for celebrating the season’s traditions. Looking to introduce new family traditions this holiday season? “Being present with them versus gifts as presents,” Dahms stated, reinforcing her commitment to fostering deeper connections within her family.
