Sarah Togatuki, a 27-year-old rugby league player, experienced the most difficult gain on the field while playing for the New South Wales Blues. Only days prior to the game, she had lost her sister, Jean. Rather than go up against a strong emotional experience, Togatuki made it a relatable, personal fight. It further highlighted the remarkable resilience and tireless advocacy of her family, particularly for her four young children. The outpouring from the community—as well as the village that Jean has built around these children—has stepped up to support these kids in their greatest time of need.
Togatuki took to social media to share her shock at the news, saying, “It really doesn’t seem real yet. Jean’s influence was invaluable in Togatuki’s life, advocating for family engagement and representation. Her sudden death leaves a tremendous hole in Togatuki’s life—and those who knew her.”
A Game to Remember
In recognition of this iconic figure, during the recent State of Origin match, the Blues paid tribute to Jean by wearing black armbands. This act was significant for team remembrance and for team support against hate. Togatuki said she was dedicating her performance in that series-clinching win Game II to her sister. She emphasized the immeasurable connection they had formed with this one loving act.
In a particularly moving scene, Togatuki wrote “RIL” (Rest In Love) on her wrist. The necklace became all but her sister would be with her while playing on the field, honoring her memory where it mattered most. She pictured Jean standing in the Sydney Football Stadium urging her on. In her imagination, Jean would’ve been the most raucous cheerleader in the bleachers.
“She vowed to protect us all, and she truly lived that promise.” – Sarah Togatuki
It was another way that Jean’s presence could be felt all over the pitch during this match. Togatuki wrote of her sister that she was “the quiet glue that kept our family together.” It only scratches the surface of Jean’s deep impact on their lives. As the game wore on, Togatuki’s 14-minute spell shone like a diamond. Although the match ended prematurely due to a head collision, she demonstrated her toughness even in the midst of heartbreaking loss.
Family Bonds
Togatuki’s family history deepens this already emotional story even further. She suffered another blow when her brother Junior was killed in 2015, amplifying the trauma she’s endured. Since Jean’s death, community support has been essential for Togatuki and her children’s survival. They are in greater need of that support today than ever before.
Jean was no ordinary sister, and she was not only a key source of support, but a powerful force of encouragement. According to Togatuki, Jean was always the first to put others’ needs before her own, demonstrating poise, elegance, loyalty, and love. Jean’s unexpected death has sent Togatuki into deep mourning. As overwhelming grief sets in, her heart aches most for her four gorgeous children who now must navigate the world without their Mom – Jean was only admitted to the hospital two weeks ago.
“She always showed up. Always put others before herself. Always stood on loyalty and love.” – Sarah Togatuki
Praise for Strength
A special mention must go to Togatuki, who Strange praised for incredible power and seeing the Bronx through hellish conditions. We certainly did, but mostly I think he understood this is an incredibly rare achievement. Few of us could deliver under such extraordinary stress and grief.
“I don’t know if anyone else could’ve done that. I don’t know if I could’ve,” – John Strange
Through all of this, Togatuki’s dedication to her sport and her family shine through, showcasing an admirable resilience. Against this backdrop, she navigates her own personal loss while proudly representing New South Wales on one of rugby league’s biggest stages. Her story of perseverance continues to empower thousands as a beacon of hope and strength.
